Will forcing a parent to pay child support obligations then cause resentment towards the children? This is a question that was brought up in a newspaper column by a mother after having various discussions with her former husband.
Sadly, parents will often use the children as tools in getting what they want from the other spouse during or after a divorce has taken place. Parents often also take out their frustrations about having to make child support payments upon the children.
When coming up with child support determinations, courts will look at Florida state child support guidelines, take into consideration the income of both parents, and will then look at the needs of the children. Children may also have specific physical or education needs that the guidelines might not take into consideration. For those particular needs, attorneys will attempt to work out an agreement to make certain these needs are met.
But whatever the courts or the laws demand concerning child support obligations, the burden of raising a child should not be placed on one parent alone. Parents brought their children into the world together, and it's in the best interest of the child that both parents show a willingness to provide care and support.
Certainly, there may be circumstances where the non-custodial parent cannot meet his or her child support obligations. Yet even under such circumstances, changes in circumstances must be communicated to the parent raising the child. Only when communications are open can adjustments or changes to child support obligations be voluntarily made.
The policy behind Florida child support and child custody laws is to ensure the welfare of the child is met.
Source: St. Louis Post-Dispatch, "Q&A: Should mom force dad to pay child support?" by Jodie Lynn, Nov. 1, 2012