If you are a divorced parent in Florida, you know the challenges of co-parenting. Even though you have a child custody arrangement that allows for you and your spouse to spend time separately with the kids, there are still a few times a year where you will have to be in the same room as each other. If your relationship is amicable, this may not be a problem. But if you can’t stand each other, you’ll have to find a way to keep it together while you are physically together.
Whether you are attending your child’s soccer match or it is parent-teacher conference day, interacting with your ex may be a requirement from time to time. Fortunately, there are a few ways to keep your cool when your ex is around. The first is to stop thinking about your ex as your former life partner, and start thinking about him or her as a difficult co-worker.
We all have a co-worker or two who really gets to us. Despite his or her shortcomings, though, you never make a big fuss over it because you are professional and have no choice whether to interact with that person. Treating your ex the same way will keep you from doing or saying anything that could cause trouble.
Next, stay respectful during your communications, and insist that your ex do the same. Your ex knows how to push your buttons, so a good way to deal with it that will keep you both focused on your kids instead of arguing with each other is to come up with a response for tense situations. It will keep things productive and on track.
Finally, keep your personal life personal when dealing with your ex. You are no longer required to fill him or her in on what you have been up to, or why you made a certain decision. Your responsibility to each other now is to co-parent wisely. Sticking to that will make events, conferences and soccer games a lot easier for you and your kids.
Source: Huffington Post, “How to Deal With Your Ex at Your Children’s Special Events,” Nancy Kay, Sept. 6, 2013