If you are involved in a child custody case, you are likely concerned about ensuring that your children’s best interests are served and that whatever arrangement is ultimately ordered will be fair to you. If your case is relatively civil and centers on lesser matters than custody, support and visitation arrangements themselves, you may be able to resolve your disagreement with a modification to your parenting plan. However, if your disagreement with your co-parent regards the overarching matter of who gets custody of your child, then you are likely in for a more intense legal process.
If you are facing an intensely heated and high stakes child custody, visitation or support battle, it is important that you focus down on what is important to you and how to go about pursuing these important goals in healthy ways. Failure to understand what you are and are not willing to compromise on from the start can lead to an unnecessarily adversarial and drawn-out process.
Once you have figured out your goals and deal-breakers, it is important to determine how much you can reasonably spend on pursuit of these goals. If you overextend yourself financially to a breaking point, you will not be able to provide for your child once your case is complete.
Finally, it is important to keep your children’s best interests in mind at all times. If you keep their needs in mind instead of being ruled by your own needs and emotions primarily, you are more likely to walk away from the eventual outcome of your case without regrets.
Source: The Huffington Post, “5 Dumb Mistakes Dads Make During Divorce and How to Avoid Them,” B. Robert Farzad, Feb. 13, 2014