Once the reality sets in that your marriage is ending, don't be surprised if you experience a range of seemingly conflicting emotions. On the one hand, you may feel a sense of great relief about finally ending a bad marriage and even a bit of excitement about the road ahead. On the other hand, you may feel anger about everything that transpired and some trepidation about the unknown.
Indeed, while some of this trepidation will relate to things like where you are going to live, how much support you will either pay or receive, or how marital assets are going to be divided, the majority of it will center on your children.
That's because you know that the divorce will introduce some rather dramatic changes to their lives, as they will have to become accustomed to spending time apart from a parent, and, of course, a visitation schedule.
Compounding the problem further is the fact that you and your soon-to-be former spouse may not be on the best terms, meaning it's unlikely that the two of you will be able to reach mutually acceptable solutions concerning child custody and visitation, and that your children could potentially be affected by some sort of courtroom drama.
As dire as this may seem, divorcing parents should understand that they are not without options. Indeed, rather than allowing a judge to decide the matter, they may consider retaining the services of a parenting coordinator.
In general, a parenting coordinator is a trained professional who takes the time to learn as much as they can about the relationships between the divorcing spouses and their children. From there, they use this information to help the divorcing parents work toward creating a mutually acceptable and positive parenting plan that grants them peace of mind going forward.
It's important to understand that divorcing parents don't have to be best friends to exercise this option. All there really needs to be is a recognition on the part of both parents that the divorce will be hard on their kids, and a desire to make things easier and more stable for them as soon as possible.
To learn more about the services provided by a parenting coordinator, please visit our website.