From selecting a medical facility to choosing nursery colors, expecting parents are bombarded with a battery of difficult questions in the months, weeks, days and even hours leading up to the big date.
It goes without saying, however, that perhaps the most difficult question of all for these expecting parents is what to name the newest edition to the family. Indeed, they must decide whether they want to continue a family tradition, try something unique or pick something that they feel reflects their child’s personality.
Interestingly, recent reports indicate that the process of picking a name is now becoming even more complicated, as some soon-to-be grandparents are now offering expecting parents certain incentives for going with names that have a familial significance.
Indeed, many of these boomer grandparents are offering everything from stakes in family-owned businesses and dream weddings to cash and even college tuition for their grandchild in exchange for a chance to see themselves or their family memorialized in the next generation.
Compounding the pressure faced by many of these expecting parents, say these reports, is that many of them already live with the grandparents or accept financial support from them, essentially creating a sense of indebtedness.
The good news is that many expecting parents have helped avoid any potential awkwardness or even resentment by coming up with creative resolutions when confronted with this issue, including combining family names with other names, making family names official but calling children by something else, and even allowing grandparents to pick middle names.
From a family law perspective, it’s important for expecting parents to understand that even if they do accept some sort of incentive from grandparents in exchange for naming their child a certain way, they are in no way beholden to them as far as visitation rights are concerned.
Indeed, the reality is that grandparents here in Florida — and in many other states — have virtually no legal standing when it comes to attempting to secure visitation rights, and that this remains the case regardless of divorce or other events.
What are your thoughts on this whole phenomenon? Is it something you would ever consider as a parent or grandparent?