It’s hard to be a parent. You need to be a psychologist, a disciplinarian, a worker earning a living, a cook, a housekeeper and a nanny all in one. When faced with the added complexity of going through a divorce and needing to assume all parenting responsibilities by yourself, the challenges of parenting can become overwhelming fast.
During your divorce process, you’ll likely go through a lot of different emotions from anger to sadness and from happiness to depression. As a result of this emotional roller coaster ride, your children will be sensitive to every change in your psychological state. Parents will be tasked with minimizing their external expression of intense emotions to avoid burdening their children with these feelings.
It’s understandable that your parenting skills will not be at their best during your divorce and in the time frame immediately following your divorce. This is certainly unfortunate, considering that it’s in the time after your separation that your kids will need more support and emotional attention than ever. It’s for this reason that parents may want to seek professional assistance, either by enlisting a nanny to help them carry out their parental responsibilities or by getting professional parenting guidance from a family therapist or counselor.
Much of your parenting burdens can be relieved through a well-organized parenting plan. If you and the other parent will be sharing custody, for example, it will give you some time to relax and take a break from parenting for several days each week, which should give you a chance to recharge your child care and single parent batteries.