When your time with your child is limited, it’s important to make the most of that time. Showing up for your child’s sporting events to lend your parental support is a great way to do this. That said, some Florida soccer moms and soccer dads have to be careful not to put too much pressure on their kids.
Here are a few things that noncustodial parents and custodial parents should remember when attending their child’s sporting event:
- Sports for your child are about having fun, making friends, getting exercise, learning new skills, building confidence, learning to be a good sport and learning how to work on a team. Sure, everybody wants to win and compete, but are these the most important things for your child, or are they just important to you?
- Pushy and demanding parents take the fun out of the game. Pressured kids feel stressed, and sports stop being fun.
- The line between being a supportive fan and being a stress-inducing fanatic is easy to cross without realizing. Reserve your fanatic antics for the pro teams you love. The pros are adults and professionals, so they can handle the pressure.
- Seventy percent of children stop playing sports because they’re not fun for them anymore. Is this because the sports were never fun, and they’ve just become more conscious of their feelings? Is this because of increased pressure to perform coming from hard could result in them giving up. There’s a fine line between being supportive and being destructive.
At the end of the day, the absolute most important thing you can do is to show up on the side of the field and be there in a loving way to support your child. However, some parents aren’t even able to do that if they lose their child custody rights, or if the other parent tries to keep information regarding a child’s sporting schedule a secret. If your child custody rights are in jeopardy, you can ask the courts to protect your time with your child.
Source: Upworthy, “Kids reveal the best things parents can say to them at their sporting events.,” Erin Canty, accessed Nov. 30, 2017