It’s hard enough for two people to get along when they’re married. After marriage though — particularly if the marriage ended in a difficult or contentious way — it can be more difficult than ever to come to any kind of agreement with your ex. Most matters can be codified and agreed to in a well-planned child custody agreement before they erupt into difficulty, but what if you have shared legal custody and your spouse wants to continually fight your decisions regarding health care, religion and education?
Many parents find themselves stuck in difficult situations like this — especially if their child custody agreement states that the parents must come to a mutual agreement on certain issues. Having a difficult ex-spouse like this could inspire some parents to make certain decisions in secret, but this would be a mistake.
If your court order dictates that specific decisions need to be made in unison, failure to do so could land you in court. As such, it’s best to comply with your court orders in the meantime; and, if you’re so inclined, seek a modification to the order on the basis of you and your ex not being able to agree.
At the end of the day, it’s in the best interests of you and your child to try and work peacefully with your spouse. It’s also in the best interest of your stress levels and pocketbook, as resolving parental disagreements through the court process can be expensive. Sometimes, parents can do a lot through a good honest conversation to try and figure out why the other parent is being so contentious and disagreeable. Another cost-effective strategy to resolve your post-divorce child custody dispute could be to engage in a mediation process with your ex.
Source: FindLaw, “Custody or visitation interference,” accessed Nov. 08, 2017