With the divorce process in the past, you can finally look toward the future. If you’re living in a new home, it’s your responsibility to help your child become acclimated. This holds true if you’re the custodial or noncustodial parent.
Here are some steps you can take to make your child comfortable in your home after divorce:
- Make them a part of the process: For example, let your child pick out their bedroom. Not only does this get them excited about the home, but it will also comfort them during this difficult transition.
- Don’t compete: Resist the urge to “one up” your ex. It’s okay if they have a bigger house, more toys or better technology. You can only control your relationship with your child, so focus your time and energy on this. Competing is a battle with yourself that you can’t win.
- Ask them what they want to do: Your child may feel uncomfortable in the early days of living in or visiting a new home. You can ease the tension by asking them what they want to do. Maybe they want to have a movie night. Or maybe they want to make dinner with you. Get your child involved early on, as it helps them acclimate to the home.
Unfortunately, even if you do your part in making your child’s post-divorce life as stress-free as possible, it doesn’t mean your ex-spouse will take the same approach.
If your ex neglects to follow the parenting plan and visitation agreement, talk to them about your concerns and learn more about your legal rights for requesting a modification from the court.