You don’t want to argue with your ex-spouse, especially when it comes to matters regarding your children. However, there are times when you feel that you have no choice but to stand up for yourself.
Even if you find yourself in the middle of an argument, there are steps you can take to defuse the situation. You need to understand what can escalate a child custody fight. Here are a few examples:
- Raising your voice: Even if your ex raises their voice, keep your calm in an attempt to maintain the peace. If both of you begin to scream, you’ll find yourself in a full-blown argument.
- Talking about the past: You may have a serious issue with something they did in the past, but that doesn’t mean you should bring it up. Stick to the here and now.
- Putting your children in the middle: Don’t make it a habit to bring your children into an argument with your ex. This only complicates the situation and improves the likelihood of an even bigger argument. Further, doing this can hurt your children’s well-being.
It’s never easy to do, but don’t be ashamed of backing down from an argument. Doing so will reduce tension and give you time to revisit the disagreement when both you and your co-parent are in a calmer place in the future.
Should your ex always be looking for a fight, such as by doing things that violate your parenting agreement, you may want to talk to an experienced family law attorney about your concerns and learn more about your legal rights.