Your divorce is in the past, and you’re ready to turn your full attention to building a better life for you and your children in the future. While you may be committed to this, it doesn’t necessarily mean your ex is on the same page.
There is no guaranteed way to avoid arguments with your ex, but a clear line of communication can work in your favor. Here are several communication-related mistakes that are easy to make in regard to visitation:
- A refusal to communicate: No matter what your ex has done to you, refusing to communicate will only complicate matters. Rather than do this, find a communication method that works for the two of you. Options include phone calls, text messaging, email and face-to-face conversation.
- Putting your children in the middle: For example, you may get the urge to use your children to relay messages to your ex, but doing so will only increase tension. You need to have adult conversations without putting your children in the middle.
- Turning every disagreement into a blowout fight: It’s easy for a minor disagreement to set you off, but don’t let it show. If every disagreement turns into a major fight, it’ll harm your ability to communicate in the future.
Even if you avoid these mistakes, your ex may not take as much care. This can result in a variety of issues, such as a situation in which your ex violates the court ordered parenting and visitation agreement.
If you can’t work out your differences on your own, learn more about your legal rights for requesting a modification.