When you first decide to divorce, you do a good job keeping an open line of communication with your children. You make it clear to them that both their parents are available to answer their questions and provide as much support as necessary.
But then something happens. Your divorce is in the past, and you assume that all is well with your children. This is a mistake.
Your children may have a variety of questions pertaining to custody and visitation, including but not limited to:
- Will you and mommy (or daddy) ever live together again?
- Why do I have to leave my home to spend time with mommy (or daddy)?
- Do I have any say about when I visit with my other parent?
- Why do you and mommy (or daddy) treat me like an object when discussing visitation and custody?
It’s natural for your children to ask these types of questions, among many others. It’s how you address these questions that will determine how they feel, what comes next and if you’re truly providing them with a stable living environment.
Even if you and your ex are unable to get along, it’s critical to co-parent for the sake of your children. If there’s a problem, solve it together. If your children have questions, answer them in the appropriate manner and work with one another to ensure that you’re on the same page.
In the event that your ex continually violates a custody or visitation order, learn more about your legal rights. You may be able to seek a modification from the same court that issued the original order.