Once you divorce, you hope that you never again have to spend one-on-one time with your ex. And while you have this choice, keep in mind that there may be times when you are in close proximity alongside your children.
For example, if you and your ex are both attending a sporting event or recital for your child, you need to act civil. Here are some tips you can follow to ease the tension and make it through the event without incident:
- Greet your ex: Rather than act like you don’t see your ex or ignore them completely, say hello. Not only does this eliminate some of the awkwardness, but it also kicks things off on the right foot.
- Don’t discuss anything that could cause an argument: For example, this isn’t the time or place to discuss your parenting agreement, visitation schedule or recent conflicts. If you have something you need to discuss, wait until the appropriate time.
- Respect their time with your children: Take for instance a piano recital. Upon completion, both you and your ex want to spend time congratulating your child and chatting with them. Wait your turn, take your turn and then respect your ex’s time with your child.
If you’ve tried everything to follow your parenting agreement and play nice and nothing seems to work, talk to your ex about your concerns and how you hope to address them in the future.
If that doesn’t work, your last option may be to request a modification from the court that issued your original order. It’s not something you necessarily want to do, but it may be the only way to protect your legal rights and parenting time.