The last thing you want to deal with after a stressful divorce is a child custody dispute. However, if you share children with your ex, there’s a good chance this will happen at some point.
It’s easy to believe that every dispute will result in a serious argument, but this doesn’t have to be the case. There are steps you can take to calmly work through a child custody dispute, thereby reducing tension and allowing you to be better co-parents in the future.
Here are some tips to follow:
- Keep your cool: When you get loud and angry, your ex will do the same. And even if your ex is taking this approach, it’s okay for you to keep calm. Doing so can help avoid a blowout argument.
- Listen: Don’t tell your side of the story and assume that you’re right. Let your ex talk, hear what they are saying and take every detail into consideration. This makes it easier to find common ground.
- Don’t involve your children: It’s a big mistake that many divorced couples make. They get into a fight, and the first thing they do is throw their children into the mix. Even if you’re arguing about your children, such as something regarding visitation time, you shouldn’t make it about them.
If you’ve done your best to work through a child custody dispute, but your ex continues to fight back, it’s time to review your parenting agreement. You may come to realize that the next best step is to file for a modification with the court.