If you share custody with your ex-spouse, you know that co-parenting is now a big part of your life. Even if the both of you share the desire to provide your children with stability, you’re still likely to disagree every now and again.
Some situations are simple to deal with, as you can agree to disagree and then move on. Others, however, require you to take action to find common ground.
Here are some tips to follow as you attempt to work through a co-parenting disagreement:
- Speak and listen: It’s okay to share your point of view, but you must also listen to what your ex has to say. If you do all the talking and no listening, you can’t expect the conversation to go anywhere.
- Be open to compromise: Even if you feel that you’re right, you may need to compromise in order to put the issue in the past. Take, for example, a disagreement about your child’s bedtime. If you believe it should be 8 pm and your ex has set it at 10 pm, maybe you can meet in the middle at 9 pm.
- Use the appropriate method of communication: For instance, if you know that a face-to-face conversation will result in more screaming and less talking, opt to discuss your concerns via email or text message. You know what works best, so stick to it.
No matter how hard you try, there may come a point when you realize that your ex doesn’t want to work through co-parenting disagreements. Instead, they want to do what they want, regardless of the terms of your parenting agreement.
In this case, your last resort may be to request a modification to your agreement. It’s often the only way to protect the best interests of you and your children.