Just as you have concerns about your life after divorce, your children are sure to share some of your feelings. They know things are changing but may not have a solid grasp as to what it means for them.
There are many things you can say to your children to help them better understand what’s to come. You can start with the following:
- Explain your child custody arrangement: For example, your children may be living with you but visiting with your ex every other weekend. Explain to them how this works and why it’s important.
- Let them know that both their parents love them: Even though circumstances are changing, your children must still realize that both their parents love them and will do anything for them. Should your ex not be in the picture as much as you would like, you’ll have to explain this as your post-divorce life comes about.
- It’ll get better: Change is never easy, especially when it’s brought about as a result of divorce. It’s your job to assure your children that things will get better in the near future.
You can only say so much to your children about post-divorce life. At some point, you need to let time do its job, as things have a way of clearing up as the weeks turn to months.
If you’re struggling for stability post-divorce because your ex isn’t adhering to the parenting agreement and visitation schedule, express your concerns with them. You don’t want to let this linger, as doing so could have a negative effect on the growth and development of your children.