Sometimes, a divorce that has a lot of conflict can make it difficult for both parents to be around each other, even when their children are doing exciting things. Whether your child is performing in a ballet, choir or talent show, you always want to be there to support them. Unfortunately, sometimes circumstances make it hard to be there when the other spouse and their support system is present.
It is a good idea to talk about how you want to handle events and activities in the future when you speak with your spouse during your divorce. Explain what you want clearly, so you can decide if you can move forward in that way.
How can you handle school events when you don’t get along with your ex?
Both of you should be reasonable. To start with, the event isn’t about you. It’s about your child doing something they’re proud to be a part of. Both of you may decide to come to the event and attempt to have a good attitude, even if you’re uncomfortable. Alternatively, you may decide that one parent can come while the other one calls in through a digital video service. In some cases, it may be beneficial to have someone record the event and to have your child share it with the other parent at a later time when they can enjoy it together.
For the most part, parents should be able to handle being at a big event, because they don’t necessarily have to sit together or interact much at all. If you don’t think that will work for you, then both of you should try to work out a solution in your parenting plan. Failing that, you may want to ask a judge to decide how you should handle those situations.
Your attorney can go over situations that might come up and have you discuss them with your spouse. If you can’t come to an agreement, then your attorney can support you as you take your situation to court and work with a judge to finalize your parenting plan or custody requests.