One of the biggest tragedies of divorce can happen when parents enlist their children into the divorce process in an unhealthy way. For example, parents might use their children as sympathetic ears to whom they voice their worries and concerns. They might try to pit their children against the other parent. They might also just forget to consider the feelings and best interests of their children due to the difficult nature of the divorce process.
According to a former U.S Assistant Secretary for Children and Families, we should not make children the victims of their parents' choices. Parents need to remember how much children are often worried during a divorce process. Sometimes children feel that if their parents stop loving each other that they will stop loving them. Sharing too much information with children could result in those kinds of fears.