Children want and need both of their parents, but historically child custody has been handled in the courts in such a way as to make the parents adversaries. This creates a situation in which one parent wins and the other parent loses. Despite the court's intention of protecting the child's best interests, the win-or-lose approach too often greatly limits a loving and capable parent's time with the child.
Of course, there are cases where the child should definitely be in the physical and legal custody of one parent and not the other, but that is not true in every instance. To ensure that their rights are protected and that their child's well-being overrides all other concerns, parents should have a legal representative who understands what is at stake.